Last night, in the wee hours of the deep dark that trails midnight, a buzz saw of envy got into my head, slicing through dreamland and robbing my tired muscles of any chance of getting back to sleep. Old resentments appeared and tossed about.
To my rescue came the memory of an old stress management technique that I call "stop and swap." In my case, I stopped dredging up all the "she saids" and "she dids." Instead, I dwelled upon memories of the early days of our partnership, appreciating all my former colleague's unique qualities and any of her achievements that spurred on the products of our collaboration.
Did it work? You bet. The resentment monster went slinking away. While I basked in my good fortune of having had this colleague in my life, I fell into a deep sleep.
Try it. Make a short list of your envies and then, one by one, replace each item on your list with memories of appreciation. Then, let me and the readers of this blog know how you did by adding a comment to this article.